It’s Because I’m Black

In high school I had a best guy friend who truly cared about me. When I failed my parking test he drove around all night stealing orange construction cones. He took me to an abandoned parking lot and set them up and tried to help me learn to parallel.… READ THE REST

My Birth Story Includes My Doula

Tuesday night we had our last dinner together as “just us,” although we had NO idea. Wednesday morning I woke up at 5:30 questioning if my water had broken. I had wondered the same thing the night before, but wasn’t sure and didn’t want to make a big fuss over nothing.… READ THE REST

Dear Sperm Donor

Dear Father,

I hope you had a Merry Christmas. But in truth,

I hope your Christmas was miserable. I wish you had an ache in your heart because something was missing. I hope you were by yourself and it was just another day for you.… READ THE REST

Here is Why You Can’t Give Up

I leave tomorrow to compete in Mrs. World in Johannesburg South Africa.

 

I competed at Miss USA on June 8th, 2014. I prepared, I worked, I prayed, and I lost.

 

In the last 3 years, I have learned that your dreams don’t give up on you, if you don’t give up on them.… READ THE REST

It’s Hard to Feel Pretty

I’m here, climbing these steps in the gym. Kind of wishing I hadn’t set myself up at such a high speed. I’m already tired. I’m trying to act like I’m not actually dying, huffing and puffing up another flight toward that 200 calorie mark.… READ THE REST

I Learned to Be a Man From My Mom

82% of single-parents are mothers. The number of single-mothers has risen over the years as divorce continues to climb at alarming rates and dads disappear.

 

There is magic in a mother’s hand. It’s soft and forgiving, a mother’s “hush” can sooth a crying baby instantly.… READ THE REST

What I Wanted In A Man


When I was fifteen my friends and I made dating contracts. It was a compiled list of all the qualities potential boyfriends would need to have in order to make the cut. We signed them in blood and pinky-swore we would never settle for a boy who did not check off ALL of our requirements.… READ THE REST

I Barely Survived High School


This year my daughter will start Kindergarten. Which means I am naturally already having crippling anxiety over her first day of high school. You guys, WHAT THE HECK WAS HIGH SCHOOL?

 

I went to the principal’s office once. I asked him to repaint the bathroom stalls.… READ THE REST

Dads Cry Too

I was 6 years old. I told you I didn’t want to ride the bus. You said it wasn’t up for discussion. I begged and pleaded. I cried and pulled my hair. You were unaffected. I threw myself on the ground and vowed never to speak to you again if you made me get on that bus.

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