Some people are just toxic, it’s a hard fact of life. Okay, maybe they’re not being toxic to everyone but they can be in your life. Perhaps you were once friends and had a lot in common but people do actually change. You can waste all your energy and time trying to please that person but it just wont matter.
It’s time to break up.
Yes, you can totally break up with friends but like any breakup, scars will be left. Someone will get hurt and things will never be the same. When you break up with someone, the memories and emotions linger in your mind like a bad dream. You don’t just wake up the next day and feel instant relief. If it were only that easy…
Once upon a time this person seriously meant something to you and that means an impression was left on your heart, but I want you to know that you have look out for yourself, too.
This isn’t a simple task. It’s easy to rip up all of your pictures together. Harder to shred memories. Trust me, I know. It has taken me 4 years to realize that I have someone toxic in my life. 4 years! I was in complete denial and tried way too many times to make it work. Once I realized that it wasn’t going to work, I became sour about her and the failing of our relationship.
I became toxic.
The thing is, breaking up is damn near impossible in certain situations. We live in the same area and have many friends in common. We like a lot of the same things and our paths keep crossing even though we don’t ever come face to face. Even when we did live miles apart, social media always made sure to remind me of the good ole’ days. Thanks TimeHop.
I know what you are thinking, if we have so much in common, how are we not still friends? Even as I write this I am second-guessing our breakup. Oh wait, I remember why.
She wanted to see me fail. I know in my heart that it wasn’t her intention, but when we didn’t fail together, I became her enemy. Seriously, one day we were friends and the next she wouldn’t look at me. I have replayed the scenario in my mind over and over again; even in slow motion. What did I do wrong? Was it something I said? We both wanted to succeed hand in hand but life had other plans. I did what my gut told me and I gave it time.
I tried to rekindle the relationship on multiple occasions over the years but there are only a limited amount of eye rolls and fake smiles I can take. The only time I heard from her was when she needed something from me and that pissed me off even more. After a while I found myself praising her losses and talking trash about her wins. When someone mentioned her name I would roll my eyes and give fake smiles. I would get furious when she started doing things that I was doing and posting it out there for the world to see. Who does she think she is? This is my town.
Wait, who do I think I am?
I have made the decision that it’s time to break up with her; and by her I mean me. Looking back I had every reason to end our relationship. We no longer wanted the same things and we couldn’t support each other’s goals. Instead of letting it go, I let it fester inside of me. I was so upset about the way she was treating me that I became just like her. I became the type person that I didn’t like.
One of the best parts about being an adult is the fact that you have the ability to remove the toxic people in your life. If someone doesn’t have the same outlook, don’t waste your time trying to make it happen. Instead, surround yourself with positive supportive people who have a common goal. The scars that were left behind will fade if you let them. You know the old saying, don’t drop down to their level…
Haters gonna hate, just make sure to take a look in the mirror before you decide who the haters are.
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