It’s no secret. Bad things happen and it always feels like it’s happening to you. Doors constantly slammed in your face and the rain cloud never goes away. You are scared to go to bed because of the shit you will have to deal with in the morning. You hate your job and your family is barely hanging on by a thread.
Or perhaps your battle is internal. You absolutely despise the person reflecting back at you in the mirror. You feel like an ugly fat slob that got the short end of the pretty-gene-stick. You cry every time you step into the changing room at target so you buy clothes that resemble the latest maternity fashion. You have come to terms with the fact that this is as good as it gets so you might as well embrace it. You stuff your face to misery while watching Netflix and tell yourself this is who you are.
This is it. This is your life.
Well I’m here to tell you that’s complete BS. Why? Because I’ve been there and I’ve done that. No, you are no special snowflake.
Yeah, I have a story, too. To sum it up let’s just say I’ve survived a sexual molestation case, have been in foster care, daughter of an incarcerated parent, and adopted by my grandmother who’s husband left her shortly after the adoption. I’ve survived depression, eating disorders, abandonment, mental abuse, bullying, and more.
So what makes me so special?
I didn’t accept my battles as my future. I don’t use my past as a crutch. I don’t identify with those events that happened to me. Those aren’t acceptable excuses to live a mediocre life. I am not a victim, I am a survivor.
My life truly changed when I made one huge decision. I decided to stop focusing on the things out of my control and start focusing on the things in my control. My story is full of things that happened to me. I found myself dwelling on them and it turned me in to a dark sadistic person. I hated myself and everything to do with being happy. It really affected everyone around me and it was hurting those I love the most. I just couldn’t take it any more.
Are you fed up yet? Are you ready to make a change? I challenge you to take a look in the mirror and make a list of things you can control. I’ll help.
Your health– If you follow any of my Instagram posts, you already know that I am a health nut. It’s because my health was the first thing I knew how to change. I can control how many workouts I schedule in my week and what food passes through my mouth. No one can force me to do a workout and I love that. I choose to workout because it’s a freedom that I have. I discovered an unstoppable high after each workout and I was addicted. I loved the way I felt, I loved my reflection, and I loved when people started noticing.
Your mentality—The problem with our society is that we limit our learning to the 4 walls of a classroom. We don’t take education into our own hands because the experience was pure torture (for most of us). Gaining knowledge is powerful and the most successful people in the world will tell you that they include personal development into their daily life. You want to be the best? Study how the best became the best. Listen to a podcast, read a book, listen to a book, watch a documentary, read a blog (see what I did there.) We are effing millennials, we have no excuse. Grab your Starbucks and head to Barnes and Noble. There is a section called Self Help and it’s not just for depressed junkies. Pick up a copy of The Miracle Morning and stop complaining. Knowledge is power and I’m dropping some right here.
Are you ready to stop feeling like a failure? Are you ready to start living? You just hit the jackpot because I just gave you the key to living your dream life. If you can take charge on your physical health and mentality everything else will fall into place. I’m not saying it’s going to be a walk in the park. I can assure you that more doors will be slammed in your face but you will find that your newfound knowledge has prepared you to open a window.
Set small goals every day and bust butt to make them happen. If you imagine that your life depends on reaching those goals, you just might save it.
You can follow Miss Indiana USA 2014, Mekayla Eppers, on Instagram at MissMekaylaFitness and SpilledMilkClub.